After getting away from an NPD, the abused will grieve for the image the NPD showed them in the beginning of the 'relationship', even though this image was totally false, and not the real person. The abused will have to come to terms with the harrowing reality that the NPD did not care about them at all, in any way whatsoever. Their victims are just toys, that they use and abuse at will.
If you can, contact ex-partners of an NPD, and compare notes. You will be surprised that it wasn't just you they did this to; they did it to every partner they have had, and will ever have.
Help and information can be found in the following links:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iFUuaw8Pf1M&feature=related